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Articles on Marriage and Family Therapy

You CAN create a successful and meaningful post-divorce life

starting over after divorceStarting over after a divorce, or "uncoupling", is a complex transition. Severing the emotional bonds of security, habit, status and dependence is challenging to say the very least. The support group offers not only the right divorce counseling, but the emotional support of others who are navigating the same situation as you. I invite you to participate in the next group starting the first Sunday in November 2011. The group meets every Sunday for 6 weeks at The Center for yoga and Personal Growth. 

 I look forward to assisting you and to reintroduce you to yourself as a way to separate from your former spouse and renew your life as a divorced, healthy, non-married person.

After such a long association with your former spouse, you often lose contact with who you are as an individual. My goal is to help you actively create the life you want, and deserve.

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Chronic Stress

couple stressAccording to American Psychological Association; APA’s 2010 Stress in America survey, more than 40 percent of all adults say they lie awake at night because of stress. 

Stress is often described as a feeling of being overwhelmed, worried or run-down. Stress can affect people of all ages, genders and circumstances and can lead to both physical and psychological health issues. By definition, stress is any uncomfortable “emotional experience accompanied by predictable biochemical, physiological and behavioral changes.” Some stress can be beneficial at times, producing a boost that provides the drive and energy to help people get through situations like exams or work deadlines. However, an extreme amount of stress can have health consequences and adversely affect the immune, cardiovascular, neuroendocrine and central nervous systems.

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Every Relationship can be Fine Tuned…..

build strong relationshipHere are 3 things you can do to build a stronger relationship 

      1.     Really strive for balance.

For any relationship to thrive each must make “emotional deposits” says Elizabeth Kovacevich MFT . This means consciously making time for each other spending it together enjoying each other’s company as well as maintaining individual interests. When we do not share in each other’s interests we fall into that subtle trap of becoming distant and detached from each other.

Now, we’re not talking about if he wants to surf with is buddies or she likes to shop with girlfriends. That’s healthy and brings a strong sense of self to the relationship.  However, it is important to invest time with each other as well. Find ways to put some togetherness back into the marriage and strive for balance in the relationship. 

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